Sedate, understated attire for an evening wedding and reception. H ere's how it's done for male wedding guests. . . or should be but, sadly, is not always these days. It took very little time to assemble the ensemble pictured. The most time necessary was about 20 minutes yesterday afternoon, to iron the shirt, which has French cuffs. These require a bit more time to press , fold, and crease into place, so that they look right once you are dressed and cufflinks are added. Note, cufflinks and the metal fittings on your wristwatch should match. Gold with gold, or silver with silver. Don't mix the two if you can avoid it. Otherwise, little time or thought was necessary before I dressed late in the afternoon yesterday. It was simply a matter of opening the ol' wardrobe, selecting the suit (heavy wool flannel -- every bit as comfortable as pajamas), a silk Glen Plaid necktie, black shoes, and dark to-the-knee dress socks. Took about three minutes, once again d