My view on dress and personal style is hopelessly out of step with much of the rest of society now. That’s not necessarily a bad thing though. Keep in mind that I am an aging 80s rocker metal head, who finally got with the program by the mid-1990s once I worked out in my mid- to late 20s how I wanted life to be after biting the academic bullet and returning to school. With that experience from the other side of the sartorial and social tracks in mind, allow me to hold forth a bit.
Grooming and how we attire ourselves remain important in the 21st century if we are brutally
honest about it. For people to be taken seriously, it still helps to
present a pulled together, polished appearance -- Note I did not use the term 'suit.' -- rather than shambling
aimlessly through life dressed in the guise of an overstuffed lawn and leaf
bag, or dirty laundry basket with a backwards ball cap perched on top
and bling or body art cheapening one’s body and leaving the wrong impression behind ourselves in the process. Dressing better than the sad, pathetic, self-defeating average is not trying too hard, guys. It's time we have a serious inner conversation with ourselves about that.
Asserting that appearance is important, however, is not a popular view to
express in this day and age. It’s not a view that the vast majority buys into any longer.
Many would be happy to drag me over the metaphoric red hot coals and/or shards of glass for
having the brazen audacity to share that point of view. And some have done so, metaphorically speaking, when I’ve been stupid enough express that opinion in no uncertain terms via this blog. Especially during its earlier, more strident days. Few of us, after all, are willing to admit that there might actually be something we need to change about ourselves in order to get ahead in life. Some, yes, but most no.
I'll venture further out on the limb of social observation and comment and posit that there is nevertheless some truth to what I suggest. How we look and conduct ourselves continues to matter in a variety of ways. Yes, even in 2020. Yet people everywhere continue to insist otherwise and ignore that fact. To their own detriment.
However, as my late mother once observed to yours truly 30 or more years ago, “Your life would turn around if you would simply choose to cut your hair, dress more presentably, and present a better image to the world. Doing so would open unanticipated doors to you.”
Oddly enough, she was absolutely right as it turned out.