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How to Handle Snide Comments. . .


"Oooo, I say!  Marmaduke?  Where DID you find that suit, old duck?"
On the other hand, if and when someone is gauche enough to comment in a negative way on your appearance, simply say nothing.  Do not allow yourself to become involved in an exchange.  People either understand the need to present oneself well, or they do not as a friend once advised.  Refuse to engage with the nuisance and move on.  
As my late mother used to advise for all sorts of annoying situations involving other people, "Let it roll off your back like water off a duck."  My late father put it more directly with "Consider the source."  
Snide remarks about your attire or appearance aside, don't let the ignoramuses (I prefer ignorami), and they are legion, bring you down.  It's neither worth the time, nor the irritation.  You have bigger fish to fry.  Keep the faith and keep making the effort to both dress and conduct yourself well.
-- Heinz-Ulrich


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